Whose Battle Is This?

As I was posting yesterday morning's prayer to social media before running out the door to work, the last page I attached the prayer link to was our particular life group page from church. As I posted it, I typed "part 2" as an intro to link, as if it were a follow-up to Monday's prayer, as it still revolved around the same situation as #seniorPastorMonday. Immediately thereafter, I felt the Spirit speak... "you know tomorrow is #youthPastorWednesday". In other words, consider this part 3, as the situation regarding Perry Noble's dismissal from the pulpit will greatly impact his family and children.

In discussing with a few friends, a situation that one of them is going through, I shared some thoughts with their son, who happens to be in his final teen years. I clarify his age, to recognize the fact that in parenthood, our children go through stages where they are more aware of life's circumstances and thus, are perhaps at times more informed about matters than they would have been at a prior age.

That said, now being adult myself (and for quite some time now) also with kids, I understand just how much more, what you do and don't tell your kids matters; what they can handle; what they should or shouldn't be privy to hearing or seeing. The list of situations and experiences in my own parents life and there tons of things they've gone through that I don't "know the rest of the story"; or the first part of the story, for that matter.

So, I shared such sentiments with this young man. You may be told certain aspects of a situation, you may be involved in part of the conversation, people may approach you regarding details of the matter; there remains and always will remain, certain things that will only be resolved by the person directly impacted. Even in marriage, you can't live the other spouses life or make their decisions. You might be affected even more so, because of the nature of the relationship, as well as more involved in the conversation for the same reason. But unless you are actually the decision-maker of the matter, then no matter how much you know; how much you are involved or want to be involved or want to speak up and weigh in on the situation... there are some battles that can only be fought be one person.

This situation can and will be difficult for the Noble family. I can't fathom. It will impact his marriage. It will impact his family. And each of them will have a decision to make as to how they handle and process the matter as it unfolds. But as I explained to the young man, it's easy to be upset because we see our parents upset. It's easy to be frustrated on their behalf and to take on their battles for ourselves. But to each his own battles. I'm not saying we don't support each other in them. I'm saying I can't live your life and you can't live mine. My parents had to recognize they couldn't live mine. And I'm sure there's matters I'm in the dark on because there's no way I could have lived theirs.

Thus for these kids... they are in a difficult place. They are directly affected. And no doubt, the enemy of our souls will exploit this situation regarding their father, to get a foothold and stronghold in their lives, whereby he can derail, detour and destroy their live. What a tragedy... if they responded wrongly to their parents because of what's transpired; wrong in their response to the church; to God; to society... justified as all of it may seem.

Pray, this #youthPastorWednesday, for kids and specifically, the Noble family; that this situation would not take residence in their heart and life as a place for the enemy to gain ground. Pray God would guard their heart and mind; that bitterness, anger and defeat would not control their emotions and thoughts. Pray this would be a time to draw close to God and rely upon Him; to trust in Him that He will work the miraculous in this family and these circumstances. Pray for this marriage, that God would do a healing and restoration in their lives; that the Holy Spirit would guide their conversations and that grace and forgiveness would take over as confession unfolds. May these circumstances, difficult and humbling as they may be not give way to defeat and loss; but pray they would arise victorious and stronger than ever. May they stand on the other side of this and proclaim, "Look what God has done!"

For the glory of God
By the blood of Jesus Christ.
Stronger for the kingdom of God than they would be apart.

- PNC