If only we put as much energy into our current situation as we do in the prospect and excitement of another opportunity.
I know, sometimes the job is truly miserable and frustrating and even if it was 100% better by changes made on your part, a new one is still better. I know, the relationship is beyond words difficult and I may never understand exactly what you have or are going through... and even if it was 100% better by changes made on your part, it might be time to part ways. I know, you may not be able to stand your current living situation and the prospect of a new place... well it never hurts to look. And even if it was 100% better by changes made on your part, a move may be best.
I'm not making light of any circumstance or situation you face, nor diminishing the frustration I've experienced in my own life. Yet, as conversations transpire over such topics, you can't help but consider the possibility, that perhaps where you are is best for now. It makes sense for right now. It works for right now. And perhaps, the frustration, the dissension, the anxiety and attitude you feel towards what is unfolding before your eyes, really could be an entirely different scenario if you did what was necessary to make it 100% better.
The relationship is hard. The job is frustration. The living arrangement is... whatever. I really do get it.
(Funny, how God just brings to remembrance, right when you need it)
Felt like the Spirit just dropped within me, that all too often we change things up in our lives, without giving regard to the biblical principle from Romans 12, "as much as it depends on you, live at peace with all men"
While figuring out what's going on in the relationship, whether as friends, dating or married, what are you doing to express the love of Christ, that is opening their eyes to possibility that things in their life need to change, rather than you beating them over the head with words?
While trying to navigate the workforce, what attitude displays Christ in your life, rather than what's being done that is causing more stress and work for you than what should be the case?
In whatever circumstance is causing turmoil or disruption in your home life, what are you doing to allow God to bring insight, wisdom and creativity into making changes that will bring peace, stability, hope and joy into the circumstance, rather than thinking a drastic and expensive solution will fix it all?
If we feel in our own lives or give advice to our neighbor that a drastic change is needed right now, we'd better be seeking the face of God and certain he has spoken clearly, specifically to that situation, to move in a different direction. Otherwise, and sorry for the cliche, but often times prayer is more about changing us to become more like Christ, whereby we see life and solutions with a different perspective rather than our own finite insight and desires. Sure; it might mean the change takes a little longer. We may have to work harder and do more than we already are. We may not see immediate results. But allowing God to work in our life and trusting Him to do the work, that if we tried to accomplish on our own would be 1000x more difficult, is a much better solution than our forcing change and finding ourselves in worse circumstances than what we wanted to desperately escape.
I'm running out of room to go into detail, but I've witnessed first hand... when circumstances changed, however they did, the person(s) who did "what depended on them" came out better, healthier and happier as a result. Those who didn't, even though their circumstances are now different as well, are still frustrated...
...because all change in life, starts with the person in the mirror, not the person next to us.
Pray, (after reading this longer post :-), this #communitySaturday, that no matter our circumstances and the frustration that ensues, that our attitudes would reflect Christ. May our responses, however tempted we are to place our rights and opinions first, be ones that reflect the love of God. May there be a desire to inquire of God, His plans and desires for our lives, family and friends before we state our own. Pray God be glorified as we live according to His Word and not our own desires of the flesh. May our words be positive and constructive towards others, rather than negative and hateful; despite what past experiences may have transpired. May the world see a genuine faith; that our trust in God is as real as the struggles of life that come to us all... yet for those who hope in the Lord; these struggles will pass. And we won't be remembered for what happened in life, but how we responded to how life happened.
For the glory of God
For the cause of Jesus Christ.
Just a man, attempting to fulfill God's plan. Husband, Dad, Dreamer. Blogger.